Say "I Love You"

By Amanda Pasciucco and Josh Cohen, Marriage and Family Therapists

When is the last time you said “I love you” to someone you care about?

In the wake of last week’s tragic events at “The Dark Knight Rises” premiere in Colorado, we are reminded of the importance of sharing our appreciation to people in our lives. At times like these, we remember that many lives are lost too soon, and things are left unsaid. We cannot predict the future, so we must live each day as if it is a gift and cherish those we care about.

Remember to say “I love you” to family members. Acknowledge these special people in a way that values their significance in our lives. Parents, children, and romantic partners are usually taken for granted. We tend to expect them to act in a certain way based on their relation to us, and we forget to view them as the blessings they are.

Show appreciation. We don’t need holidays such as Mother’s or Father’s day, birthdays, or anniversaries to share our appreciation with the people who we care about. We don’t need Hallmark to write out the words in a pre-written card. All we need to do is reflect on the person who we love, and those feelings and words that express what we feel for them will become accessible. When thinking about people we love, we will realize that it is easy to verbalize our emotions when we actually give ourselves time to think about it.

Think about it. Stop and think about the meaningful people in your life. Acknowledge how much they actually mean to you. Think of at least one sentence to tell them of your appreciation for them. It can be stating how lucky you are to have them in your life, the way you appreciate their being, that they brighten up your life, or you can simply say, “I love you.”

Amanda Pasciucco, M.A. MFT, is an individual, couple, and family therapist with a private practice in Wilton, Connecticut. Currently, she is working on publishing her first book. For more information, you can visit her website at www.therapybyamanda.com or follow her on twitter @TherapyByAmanda.