Is It Time To Move On?

Is it time to move on?

By Amanda Pasciucco and Joshua Cohen, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Relationships: There are many times within relationships, including friendships, where we are exhorting too much of our own energy and not getting anything back in return. There is a point in the relationship where you need to move on because relationships are supposed to be about giving and taking, not exhausting yourself for someone who does not appreciate your efforts. Sometimes we can find ourselves bitter and resentful within relationships, but we have the choice to move on from this relationship rather than continue to frustrate ourselves with friendships that are one-sided.

Careers: If you feel hopeless going into your job, why not work on a resume and start applying for a new one? There isn't much to lose if you don't get the offer, and if you do, then there is a hope for a different future. Some people stay at their job way beyond the necessary time and feel absolutely miserable there. Because we spend so much of our time at our jobs, it is extremely important that the job brings you some form of joy.

Homes: Maybe you have lived here your entire life or maybe you just moved. Either way, if this doesn't feel like "home" to you, you can be causing yourself a lot of additional stress. If your house hasn't become "home," it is time to make a change. It won't be easy, but it is necessary because home is the one place that is supposed to ground you and rejuvenate you. If you don't feel that your home is a sanctuary of peace and a refuge, then it is time you and your family start looking for alternatives.

How can you tell when it time to make a change? Usually, our bodies are the first sign that we need to make changes. When we start feeling aches and pains in various parts of our body and we have not been injured, it is a sign that there is anxiety and tension in the body that is trying to be released. Instead of letting it out verbally, sometimes the body begins to act out in the form of migraines, back pain, and stomach aches. Sometimes these are signs that we are not currently pleased with how things are going in our lives and it may be time to make a change.