By Amanda Pasciucco, Marriage and Family Therapist
One thing that has been lost through the “Fifty Shades of Grey” epidemic is
the unrealistic expectations it has created in some women, causing them to
question whether “something is wrong with me” if their libidos don’t match up
with the protagonist’s. A low libido is not a sign that something is wrong with
you, but it may indicate the presence of an excess of stress in your life.
Studies have shown a causal link between stress and low libido.
Stress Bringing the kids to school, working extra hours at the office,
a new project added to your plate, late payments on your bills, taking up night
school... what do all of these things have in common? Well, they all bring
additional stress to your life. When your stress increases, your body goes into
"fight of flight” response. During this stage, the hormones cortisol and
adrenaline (epinephrine) prepare you to get ready to go out and do something or
to stay and fight. If you keep feeding your body with activities that cause you
stress, over time the production of these hormones begin to negatively affect
the libido.
Does this affect men and women? It depends. The production of cortisol
decreases testosterone, and testosterone is responsible for a large part of our
libido. This can cause a big problem for people who have low levels of
testosterone. Usually females have about ten times less testosterone in their
bodies than males. Although stress can affect males’ libido, research has shown
that generally females’ libidos are more affected by stress than males’ are.
What do I do about it? Learning stress management techniques would be
helpful! Seek counseling or talk with someone you know who appears to have a
good balance in his or her life between work, family, relationship, schooling,
and pleasure. Learning techniques such as diaphragmatic breathing and meditation
from a therapist or trainer have been proven extremely helpful in decreasing
stress and thus increasing libido. Another way to decrease stress is to start
incorporating exercise and healthy into your schedule. When you exercise you
release endorphins, the body's natural way of fighting off stress.
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